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Posted by on Sep 26, 2014 in Blog, Relationships & Family | 0 comments

The Basics About Putting A Child Up For Adoption

An unplanned pregnancy is something that a surprisingly large number of women face. Although it can be a stressful situation, adoption is the greatest solution for numerous reasons. Adoption is where all legal rights and responsibilities of the child are permanently given to a new set of parents.

Instead of terminating the pregnancy, the child is able to be given life, and by giving custody to a family who, for example, isn’t able to conceive, the unwanted pregnancy becomes a miracle.

There are private and public adoption agencies.

  • Public agencies are run by the state and have programs for foster children and adoption. There are lots of older and special needs children looking to be adopted through public agencies.
  • Private agencies are very different and are licensed through the state to do domestic or international adoptions. It is a good idea for parents to research a few different agencies, to find one that best fits them and can meet their needs.

Closed Adoption

Closed, or confidential adoption is very common. Often times, the biological mother or parents want to continue with their lives as they had before the child was born. The couple or family who adopts the child wants to raise him or her as their own, and not have to explain the story of how they came to be until the child is older.

This makes closed adoption an ideal decision. The legal records of the biological mother isn’t accessible, and the biological father is usually not even put on the birth certificate. This makes it very difficult for the child to find his biological parents when he or she is grown.

This situation is really only possible with an infant, who will not have any recollection of anything other than the adoptive parents.

Open Adoptions

Open adoption is when, after the process is complete, information is shared between both parties. This is preferred by biological parents who would like to know about the child as he or she grows up. Sometimes, in an open adoption, the biological parents play a somewhat important role in the child’s life, perhaps as an aunt or uncle.

More commonly, though, the biological parents don’t have such a significant role in the child’s life, but get to see him or her a couple times a year, and receive pictures and other bits of information by mail. If you want to know more, click here to investigate and learn more about adoption.

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Posted by on Sep 15, 2014 in Blog, Relationships & Family | 0 comments

How Pregnancy Counseling Can Help Women With Unplanned Pregnancies

It is important for women dealing with unplanned pregnancies to know they are not alone and there are people who want to help them. Even women experiencing planned pregnancies struggle with the transition into motherhood, hormones, feelings of discomfort, and vulnerability. Up to 16% of new moms experience acute postpartum depression after giving birth, so as a precaution, women with unplanned pregnancies need to be especially diligent about seeking help to avoid complications in the future.  Going to pregnancy counseling can give you the tools and guidance you need to make the right choices. Keep reading to learn more about pregnancy counseling and its benefits.

Be Informed about Your Options

When learning about an unplanned pregnancy, one of the first decisions a woman makes is choosing between abortion, adoption, or raising the child themselves. A pregnancy counselor should not make the decisions for the patient, instead they should make sure that the pregnant woman is completely aware of all her options. For example, a woman who is thinking about abortion should be informed that there are both in-clinic procedures and pill methods. She also should completely understand the current developmental stage of her child before making that decision.  

A woman who wants to keep her child but feels that adoption may be a better option because she doesn’t have the funds, should be given resources to either go to school or find a job. She may be eligible for programs designed to help unprivileged pregnant women like WIC. When a pregnant woman knows she has resources available, she may be less likely to make a decision she will regret in the future.

Learn Healthy Ways to Cope with Stress, Anxiety, and Depression

Unplanned pregnancies create uncertainty about the future for many women. Combine this with crazy hormones and some women find they are struggling with stress, anxiety, and depression during their pregnancy. It is important for the mother and baby’s health to make sure they are keeping their stress levels down and maintaining a positive attitude when possible.  A pregnancy counselor can be a great person to talk to, and they can also give tools for managing stress. For example, a pregnancy counselor might recommend that the woman sticks to a whole foods diet, practice yoga, and meditates on a daily basis to increase their overall level of happiness.

Plan for the Future

Pregnancy counselors are expected to know about state programs and volunteer organizations designed to help women who are pregnant or have small children. A pregnancy counselor from a place like Hope’s Promise can help the expecting mother plan for the future, which can help reduce fear of the unknown and offer the pregnant woman and her child a more stable environment before the mother gives birth. Once a child is born, it becomes more difficult to attend counseling sessions, so becoming armed with knowledge beforehand can be greatly beneficial.

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Posted by on Sep 11, 2014 in Blog, Relationships & Family | 0 comments

Things To Consider Before Fostering A Child

If you are considering fostering and already have biological or adopted children, there are some things you may need to handle differently for your foster children.      

Discipline

You will need to consider alternative forms of discipline, as you cannot use spanking or other forms of corporal punishment on foster children. Many children come from abusive situations and punitive forms of punishment and/or raised voices may be triggers for them. Using “time in” and having a child spend time right next to you is one alternative form to a time out. Some states also restrict your ability to use spanking or other forms of discipline on your own children while foster children are living in your home.

Travel

In most cases, you are encouraged to include your foster children in your family’s travel plans. In some instances, this may require you to obtain permission from the children’s parents, your caseworkers, or even the court prior to travel.

If permission cannot be obtained, alternate arrangements will need to be made for the care of your foster child while you are gone. Some states have specially trained respite providers who can care for a child in your home while you are away, or alternatively another foster parent may be able to provide care during your vacation.

If a child travels with you and you are leaving the state, you may need to obtain travel insurance in case of emergency, as the child’s state coverage will not be available across state lines.  

Childcare

If you depend on friends and family for babysitting services for your biological child, you may need to make alternate plans for your foster child. In most cases, those who provide ongoing care for foster children need to pass a background check and possibly attend specialized training prior to caring for a foster child for more than a few hours a month. This includes grandparents and other relatives. 

Schooling

Most foster children will need to attend schools within the public school system and may even need to be transported to their home school to avoid interruption to their education and social support system. 

If you homeschool or your children attend a private school, you will need to discuss those options for your foster child with your caseworker.

Fostering is a rewarding experience and with a little planning and forethought you can welcome a child into your home prepared for what tomorrow brings. For more information on foster care, visit http://www.achildsdream.org.

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